Unsolicited revenge fantasies silence complaints of sexism by decentering the feelings of the woman who experienced the sexism and framing the range of "appropriate" responses to the sexist incident.
- Responding with revenge fantasies invalidates a woman's feelings of sadness or vulnerability or anger (without vengefulness) or any of a wide range of possible emotional responses
- Revenge fantasies may be upsetting or triggering to marginalized people, who may have experienced violence personally or against a loved one in the name of "revenge"
- Revenge fantasies are usually extremely impractical; for instance, responding to office microaggressions with violence is impractical and would harm the marginalized person more than the sexist
- Because revenge fantasies are so impractical, they can make the marginalized person feel that what they actually experienced and described went unheard
- Related to Unsolicited advice
- "I would have kicked him in the balls!"
- "I hope he dies in a fire!"
- "People like that deserve a Biblical plague."